Monday, October 12, 2009

PostHeaderIcon Cara: ...and they never had a fight.

OK that’s kinda true. My husband doesn’t fight. He just walks outside and has a cigarette while I blow off steam.

Today we are married 18 years. Wow. That’s a long time. (our “other” anniversary…is 2/11/85…so we will be dating 25 years in February) Double Wow.

Someone asked me the other day what my secret is. Secret? I don’t think we have one. I think we both knew from the beginning that we would end up being together. We have always just fit. We go together. We compliment each other. What one lacks the other makes up for. He is like marshmallow. I am like hot sauce. If we were both one or the other I don’t think we would have made it this far. Our lives are forever intertwined. The lines between “his” family and “my” family are blurred. His cousins are my cousins. My aunts are his aunts. We pretty much grew up in each other’s houses so our four parents belong to both of us. We have spectacular role models in our parents that attest to what “in good times or in bad” means.

While not every day is hearts and roses, we muddle through. We have days that are mundane filled with making dinner, going to work, driving kids here and there and helping with homework. They are punctuated with days that are milestones like our first born’s Sweet 16. Or days that are filled with sadness like the loss of someone in “our” family.

We are each other’s “home”, our soft place to fall. We know what to do to get the other’s goat if we are in that kind of mood. We can crack each other up like no one else can. I suppose it just comes easy to us. It’s what we know for sure. I know we are tremendously lucky, although I may take that for granted some days.

There’s always respect, even in the heat of a moment. Always. Even if we feel like throwing something. Always respect.

Sometimes we know exactly what the other one needs. Sometimes we make it up as we go along. So it’s not perfect, no marriage is. But it seems to be working for us. Happy Anniversary TP.

Jenn's two cents: Happy Anniversary to my favorite couple!


Beth P. said...

Happy Anniversary! 18 years is truly inspirational as is this post. My husband and I don't fight, either. We talk, we take moments to gain composure, we make sure to always communicate. It is wonderful to know your partner so well you can get through it all - the mundane and the happiness and the sad times and the exciting times. I hope you have an amazing anniversary day and get to celebrate!

Rosanne said...

Wow!! 18 years is a lifetime. Good for you both, it's not easy to get through the 90% mundane and treasure the other 10%. You both do it with class and humor, the most important ingredient.

Feeling Fit With Dana said...

Congratulations! It is amazing how we can find our soul mates isn't it! I am the same way with my hubby (we've been married 25 years now!) Keep up the good work!

Anonymous said...

I think, sadly, many couples quit when the going gets tough.

The Redhead Riter said...

"Today we are married 18 years. Wow."

In this day and age "Wow" just doesn't say it all!


Anonymous said...

18 years and you continue to amaze me....We have come along way from working in Kentucky Fried Chicken...I honestly have to say that 18 years ago I would have never dreamed that our life would be so good continue to be my one and me

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