Showing posts with label parents. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parents. Show all posts
Monday, January 24, 2011
Cara: Parents suck...just sayin'
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Cara
Of course I don't mean YOU. But I am sorry, some parents suck. I beg your pardon if you don't like that expression, but it's true.
I try not to suck at parenting. Most parents I know don't suck. They make mistakes, like I do, but that doesn't mean they suck. Most of us try like hell most days. We don't always make the mark. We may say something we don't mean out of anger. We may let them do something we don't really want them to do and have it come back to bite us. That's being human. That doesn't mean you suck as a parent.
A father (true story) who was walking into school in front of me one morning last week...he sucked. He was walking his daughter in and she had a very heavy backpack with what seemed like a lot of books in it. He said "Why is your backpack so heavy?" She said "I don't know" So I said "Well she must be really smart that's why she has so many books!" He says "Oh, she is definitely not smart!"
Wait. What? Are you serious? OK, Dad you totally suck. She was embarrassed now. I was embarrassed. She said " Yeah, bye Roger!" He said "You calling me by my first name now?" She said "Anyone who says something mean like that doesn't deserve to be called Daddy." Well then. She totally did not suck. What the heck was that? Hello? Ever hear about building UP your child's self esteem?
Or how about the parent that teaches their child all that matters is being first, being better than everyone else, having the "thing" before your friends whether that means you lie, put down or step on kids that are supposed to be your friend? They suck. The especially suck when most parents I know teach their kids to play as part of a team and not always try to be the superstar. Or put other people's feelings first sometimes especially when they are your friend. Or to play fair and call them on it when they don't, instead of teaching them to be a sneak? Yeah they suck.
Thing is although sometimes I come upon children that would like smack, I have to remember their parents probably suck and it's not really their fault.
Maybe parents that suck should stop trying to live vicariously through their 8 year olds. Maybe they should try to remember they are raising someone who is going to be a grown man or woman someday. Don't they want that grown up to be a good person and a productive member of society and not just another grown up that sucks? Maybe they don't care.
I do. I don't want grown up children who I don't want to be around. That would suck. Just sayin'.
Jenn's two cents: my two cents turned into a whole post - it will be up tomorrow!
I try not to suck at parenting. Most parents I know don't suck. They make mistakes, like I do, but that doesn't mean they suck. Most of us try like hell most days. We don't always make the mark. We may say something we don't mean out of anger. We may let them do something we don't really want them to do and have it come back to bite us. That's being human. That doesn't mean you suck as a parent.
A father (true story) who was walking into school in front of me one morning last week...he sucked. He was walking his daughter in and she had a very heavy backpack with what seemed like a lot of books in it. He said "Why is your backpack so heavy?" She said "I don't know" So I said "Well she must be really smart that's why she has so many books!" He says "Oh, she is definitely not smart!"
Wait. What? Are you serious? OK, Dad you totally suck. She was embarrassed now. I was embarrassed. She said " Yeah, bye Roger!" He said "You calling me by my first name now?" She said "Anyone who says something mean like that doesn't deserve to be called Daddy." Well then. She totally did not suck. What the heck was that? Hello? Ever hear about building UP your child's self esteem?
Or how about the parent that teaches their child all that matters is being first, being better than everyone else, having the "thing" before your friends whether that means you lie, put down or step on kids that are supposed to be your friend? They suck. The especially suck when most parents I know teach their kids to play as part of a team and not always try to be the superstar. Or put other people's feelings first sometimes especially when they are your friend. Or to play fair and call them on it when they don't, instead of teaching them to be a sneak? Yeah they suck.
Thing is although sometimes I come upon children that would like smack, I have to remember their parents probably suck and it's not really their fault.
Maybe parents that suck should stop trying to live vicariously through their 8 year olds. Maybe they should try to remember they are raising someone who is going to be a grown man or woman someday. Don't they want that grown up to be a good person and a productive member of society and not just another grown up that sucks? Maybe they don't care.
I do. I don't want grown up children who I don't want to be around. That would suck. Just sayin'.
Jenn's two cents: my two cents turned into a whole post - it will be up tomorrow!
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Cara:Parents
Last night was Meet the Teacher Night. It went well. Mike's new teacher was great, everything he said she was. Nice, pretty and smart. I think he is going to have an awesome 3rd grade year. Cowgirl and I are class moms so who's happier than our two fellas?
Having said that...taking a step back and observing (because that's what I do and especially now being a blogger..because EVERYONE is fair game!) the parents I must say were well...ew (profound I know, I know).
First walking into the school I felt like it was walking the Red Carpet...who was parked out front in their new shiny fill-in the-blank...BMW, Mercedes what have you. Not that I am hating on the fancy cars I want one too...but I am not going to park it practically in the front door so it/I can be "seen".
We were greeted by the Superintendent and various BOE members at the door. I have no problem with that. They know me and hubby by name mainly because they are parents too and our kids are friends and cause I am involved.
But I could feel the looks burning the back of my head as they kissed me hello and welcomed us back to school (loudly may I add). I was starting to expect a glass of champagne and a goody bag with designer makeup in it as a favor. I also thought that maybe my top and capris had me under dressed...perhaps I should have opted for the gold sequin gown and diamonds. I digress...sorry. I genuinely like them as people. I am not a kissy kissy person. So I don't kiss just anyone hello. So Parent, instead of right away thinking I am a kiss ass (and I only air kissed the side of their face..thank you) why don't you think why noboby you who think is important knows you? Don't be giving me looks 'cause I can give you a look that would burn through your head.
Instead of walking the red carpet hoping to be seen, how about you go into the auditorium and listen to the principal or God forbid the PTA President. (a gig I will NEVER consider in this school by the way) Or go to the art room or library and say hi to the librarian? Oh I forgot the librarian is not on the who's who silly me. No, the "in" teacher who your kid had back in 2nd grade is much more important to be seen with and talk to while parents of kids he has NOW need to talk with him.
If you are not going to go into the auditorium and listen to the principal, which is fine, then can you NOT stand right at the door talking and laughing REALLY loud like you are at a cocktail party. (or the Oscar after party for example). Why don't you sign up for a lousy committee while you are cocktailing? Yes those blank sheets that are sitting there on the table are for you. Sign up for a lousy hour at the Holiday Boutique. Not really a big deal. Yes I understand some of you "work" (not like lazy me) then sign up to make a friggin' salad for the Staff Appreciation luncheon.. you can handle that.
When we are in the classroom and the teacher is speaking to us about what is going on this year with YOUR kid's classroom can you NOT talk amongst yourselves? I am embarrassed and I am not even the one talking over the teacher. Seriously.
Can we remember why we are there at MTT night? Yes, we can all go out for drinks in town afterwards but for the duration of it can we pay attention and be respectful? I try to. Maybe that's why I got handed a glass of champagne when I walked in. Cheers.
Having said that...taking a step back and observing (because that's what I do and especially now being a blogger..because EVERYONE is fair game!) the parents I must say were well...ew (profound I know, I know).
First walking into the school I felt like it was walking the Red Carpet...who was parked out front in their new shiny fill-in the-blank...BMW, Mercedes what have you. Not that I am hating on the fancy cars I want one too...but I am not going to park it practically in the front door so it/I can be "seen".
We were greeted by the Superintendent and various BOE members at the door. I have no problem with that. They know me and hubby by name mainly because they are parents too and our kids are friends and cause I am involved.
But I could feel the looks burning the back of my head as they kissed me hello and welcomed us back to school (loudly may I add). I was starting to expect a glass of champagne and a goody bag with designer makeup in it as a favor. I also thought that maybe my top and capris had me under dressed...perhaps I should have opted for the gold sequin gown and diamonds. I digress...sorry. I genuinely like them as people. I am not a kissy kissy person. So I don't kiss just anyone hello. So Parent, instead of right away thinking I am a kiss ass (and I only air kissed the side of their face..thank you) why don't you think why noboby you who think is important knows you? Don't be giving me looks 'cause I can give you a look that would burn through your head.
Instead of walking the red carpet hoping to be seen, how about you go into the auditorium and listen to the principal or God forbid the PTA President. (a gig I will NEVER consider in this school by the way) Or go to the art room or library and say hi to the librarian? Oh I forgot the librarian is not on the who's who silly me. No, the "in" teacher who your kid had back in 2nd grade is much more important to be seen with and talk to while parents of kids he has NOW need to talk with him.
If you are not going to go into the auditorium and listen to the principal, which is fine, then can you NOT stand right at the door talking and laughing REALLY loud like you are at a cocktail party. (or the Oscar after party for example). Why don't you sign up for a lousy committee while you are cocktailing? Yes those blank sheets that are sitting there on the table are for you. Sign up for a lousy hour at the Holiday Boutique. Not really a big deal. Yes I understand some of you "work" (not like lazy me) then sign up to make a friggin' salad for the Staff Appreciation luncheon.. you can handle that.
When we are in the classroom and the teacher is speaking to us about what is going on this year with YOUR kid's classroom can you NOT talk amongst yourselves? I am embarrassed and I am not even the one talking over the teacher. Seriously.
Can we remember why we are there at MTT night? Yes, we can all go out for drinks in town afterwards but for the duration of it can we pay attention and be respectful? I try to. Maybe that's why I got handed a glass of champagne when I walked in. Cheers.
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